Single Women

My last post was on the Joy of Being Single , but when it comes to women, somehow it is not Joy, but a social stigma.

More and More women across the world fail to find the right partner and are single more by way of compulsion, rather then by choice.

Japan, Korea, Singapore, US, Europe, India and almost each country, women are finding it difficult to get the right man for their life. Irony is that, most of these women do not consider single hood as source of joy and happiness and are constantly bugged by friends and family on having lost out in life.

While for a Man, to be single is not a very big issue, however, for a women, biology plays a very active roll. Child Bearing is a very strong emotion in a women and with single status, the women constantly looses out her energy enduring the situation.

Society needs to now redefine that single women have the right of bearing child and the child should be recognized same as any other child. Legal rights and religious issues should be all encompassing.

There are enough means available now for women to conceive with or without man. It is upto them to take the bold step and have a piece of their blood and flesh around them.

In Japan, where most single women own a cute dog, should now think of owning their own child along with the dog.

The other irony is that some of these women miss on the ultimate pleasure of love, in copulation. As a Hand Reader, I have seen hands of thousands of single women, who had only one query - " When would they get Married " and after the session, would confess that they had nothing to be ashamed about ( Read still virgin ) though they were now around 42 and I could only pity them.

Sex is not just a source of love and feeling, it is also a natural craving of human body to find comfort in its ultimate. The mind bubbles forth with a noble madness and with clasped hands and clutched fingers nourishes the ancient hunger.

These sex starved women, have inherent personality defects and even if they do get married at late age, they would never be able to bring about a happy family.

Women against men has far more erogenous zones and each of these zone livens up and demands its sensation, however, is forced subdued with Moral Thought and social values. The body then reacts back and psychologically dampens the person.

Japan has become the first country, where women can actually buy a man for short time and talk intimately. Not necessarily connect physically, yet for this small window, she steps out from her world of loneliness and gets some reprieve. Most other countries need to learn the same, that single women has her own right of defraying her blocked emotions and channels of connectivity need to be opened up liberally. Internet though has opened up social fronts , but are extremely notorious.

Women is not the same in 21st century, she is far more educated, independent, strong, bold yet sensitive , career oriented and all this takes away much of nubelity , leaving her out of the age of marital connect. Unless and until men accept middle aged women as their potential better half, the situation for women is challenging. She needs to find her own space and liven up this space. Flirting is a vivid art and a flirt never runs out of currency. It also keeps the dis-connect with emotional rampage. Most single women fail miserably and try more and more to confirm to the social, orderly human then a fun, flirt and free bird.

It is upto the modern women to step out and find joy in its own single hood or live with bourgeois values.

Joy Of Being Single

Being Single Man could be as difficult as a single women never occured to me.

Every one around you is curious to know, what stopped me from getting married and there are many interesting takes on this. Some ask

Did you have a heart break? ( Many, lost count, the last one was yesterday)
Are you a Gay? ( Hmmmmmmm, why not try giving a women to me)
Do you have some physical problem? ( Yes, it is longer then average )
Did you have a Trauma? ( I have one now answering you)

And when it comes to women, the only question is

Don`t you feel lonely? ( Yes, at times )

And I have answered these queries for the last 20 years.

However, most interesting is that when I meet my married friends and I see, how their wife manages their lives, I feel extremely happy of being single.

Then the most private confession of each of the genius is that, the best thing I did was to remain single.

Relationships is an extremely complicated process and I usually jokingly tell my friends that " If each women was allowed one Free Murder, then the first person she would kill would be her husband "

Nothing is more exciting then being single . You then live the life of a Man and a Women. Not unusual that as soon as I leave for my office, my home is raided by the women around in the neighborhood to see, how I keep my house and what I cook and what books I read etc etc. My maid generously allows them in and many of them are ashamed of being nowhere as good as me in either cooking or house keeping.( pictures coming soon in my new blog Ghong-u-lu on Food N Travel )

More on single man in coming blogs.